Let’s start with why this is happening to me and only me. First of all, stop thinking that. Along the way, we realize a lot of things. One of the best lessons I’ve learned is to stop comparing our problems to others’. Everyone has their own issues to deal with, and they handle them at their own pace. Stop comparing. When I was a teenager, I used to think that one problem was the end of it. I struggled and pressured myself into making decisions. So what has changed now? Nothing. My ant-sized problems became mountain-sized, and my decision-making skills are still the worst. To be exact, and to put it in HR terms, I don’t perform well in pressured situations. To be honest, I am learning. I face a lot of issues on a day-to-day basis, but I am proud of myself every day for not giving up on myself.
Gossip
This is something you really need to focus on. Because others’ opinions, perspectives, and judgments of us truly matter. LOL! Just kidding. You’ll eventually learn not to give a damn about others and their so-called ‘million-dollar’ opinions. Not all opinions are bad, though. Some are good, and some are bad, just like people, right? Listen, listen, and listen to what others say, but only take what you need from it, nothing more. Stop measuring your worth by others’ tangled opinions of you.
When a friend of mine asked me to write a blog, the first topic that came to mind was ‘Move the f*** on.’ So, let’s talk about that. Relationship drama? Relationship trauma? When I talk about relationships, I mean every single one. When you invest yourself in a relationship, be sure you know what you’re getting into, because they’re going to affect your mental peace for a while. Sketchy, right? Yeah, it is. As life goes on, people will come and go. We don’t worry about that school friend we lost touch with anymore, but didn’t we cry when we parted ways? People come and go. Change is the only constant. As time passes, people change. And I’m not just talking about the other person in the relationship; this includes you too.
We change, they change, and the only thing that remains unchanged is the relationship itself—so we try to change it, and that’s when we mess things up. Life is like this—it’s hard. It will keep getting harder, not easier. Speaking from experience, or as I like to call it, ‘slipper shots,’ I keep telling myself that everything will be okay. Things will take time, but they’ll eventually sort themselves out. Let me bring you back to reality—it won’t. It’s not going to be okay. It never will be. Whether it was a five-year relationship or a five-year friendship, it doesn’t matter. It hurts—yeah, it hurts deep down, like someone stabbed a knife into your heart. So, what do we do now? Let it go. Let them go. Let it all go. Such a common thing to say, isn’t it? But this is one of the finest lessons I keep giving myself: if it’s hurting, let it go. Don’t hold on to it. When you try to hold on tighter and for longer, what happens? It tries to escape. Instead, give yourself a break and let them go. It makes everyone’s life easier.
Overthinking?
Hell yeah! This is something I’ve really tried to crack but ended up failing. When I face a problem, I try to analyze it from a million perspectives. It’s like a loop. As SJ Suryah says, ‘Think, happy. Think, sad. Think, repeat.’ It may seem funny, but it’s true. We overthink, and even when we’re happy, we’ll find reasons to be sad—that’s where the night ends. Hahaha. So, how do we stop it? I’m not sure, but let me share some techniques I follow. First, practice mindfulness. Ground yourself in the present moment and focus on what you can control. Second, set a time limit for decision-making. Give yourself a specific period to think about the issue, then make a decision and move on. Third, challenge your thoughts. When you catch yourself overthinking, ask if your worries are based on facts or just fears. Lastly, shift your focus. Engage in activities that bring you joy or distract you. For example, watching The Big Bang Theory, listening to Enn Rantai Konjam Kelu, and cooking something new from Madras Samayal videos are a big hoot for me. Remember, life is too short to get stuck in an endless loop of thoughts!
In conclusion, this blog post offers a raw and relatable exploration of personal struggles with overthinking, the impact of relationships, and the pressure to conform to others’ opinions. I’ve reflected on my journey of learning to let go of comparisons and recognize that everyone faces their own challenges at their own pace. It emphasizes the importance of mindfulness, self-acceptance, and the necessity of letting go when something becomes painful.
I’ve shared practical techniques for managing overthinking and stressed the need to prioritize personal joy. With humor and honesty, I highlight that life is challenging and will continue to present obstacles.
This is just the start of my journey, and there is a lot more to learn. I plan to pen down my thoughts and insights as time goes by, acknowledging that these reflections are solely from my experiences and perspectives—everyone may have different insights to share. I look forward to sharing more of my growth and “serupadis” in the future!
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